In this, the first of two episodes on rewards and punishments, Toria talks to Heather Lucas about moving away from the behaviouralist approach that schools have followed for years and more towards an approach that focuses on building relationships. Heather explains the three R's and really unpicks the importance of emotional regulation.
If you would like to contact Heather or have specific questions for her, she is very happy to have people email her on bitesizedpsychology@gmail.com.
Further Reading that may be helpful, some of which Heather mentioned specifically and some which further expand areas of the discussion:
A Treasure Box for Creating Trauma-Informed Organizations by Dr Karen Treisman, (Volumes 1 and 2), Jessica Kingsley Publishers, London, 2021
Restorative Practice, Building Relationships, Improving Behaviour and Creating Stronger Communities by Mark Finnis,Independent Thinking Press, Carmarthen, Wales. 2021
Beyond Behaviours, Using Brain Science and Compassion to Understand and Solve Children's Behavioural Challenges by Mona Delahooke, PESI Publishing and Media, Claire, WI, USA. 2019
Brain-Body parenting, How to Stop Managing Behaviour and Star Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids by Mona Delahook, Sheldon Press, div of Hodder & Stoughton Ltd, London, 2022
Punished by Rewards, The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A's and Praise and Other Bribes by Alfie Kohn, Houghton Mifflin Harcourt Publishing, New York, 2018 (originally written 1993)
Know Me To Teach Me, Differentiated Discipline for Those Recovering From Adverse Childhood Experiences, the latest neuroscience, applied and made practical! by Louise Michelle Bomber, Worth Publishing Ltd, 2020
The Simple Guide to ... series (Child Trauma, Attachment Difficulties in Children, Complex Trauma and Dissociation, Understanding Shame in Children) by Betsy DeThierry, Jessica Kingsley Publishers London, 2021.
Teaching the Child on the Trauma Continuum by Betsy DeThierry,Grosvenor House Publishing, Guildford, 2015.
The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog, and Other Stories from a Child Psychiatrist's Notebook, What Traumatized Children Can Teach Us About Loss, Love and Healing by Dr Bruce Perry and Maia Szalavitz, Hachette Book Group Inc., New York, 2017 (originally written 2006)
Video Clips mentioned:
Stress, Trauma, and the Brain: Insights for Educators--The Neurosequential Model - YouTube
This link is to the first of a series of short video clips by Dr Bruce Perry and is focused on the application of his Neuro-Sequential Model ( ie 'The Three R's') to Education. Each short clip has a slightly different focus so can be watched together or independently.
Other relevant research based approaches are:
Dr Ross Greene, Dr. Ross Greene — Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (cpsconnection.com)
Dr Stuart Ablon Think:Kids : Dr. J. Stuart Ablon (thinkkids.org)
Dr Daniel Siegel Inter-personal neurobiology, The Mindsight Institute, Various sources
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